I have multiple jobs. It’s not just because I am a workaholic. It’s because I want to give the best life my kids could have. Yes, their father supports them but to be brutally frank about it, it’s not enough to give them the life I have imagined. Thus, I used to have 5 jobs (excluding my sidelines for real estate and training gigs).
It came to a point that I earn more than those who are living and working overseas. In fact, I can easily get a car or house and pay for it without worries. Sounds cool, right? I mean, I get to earn well and at the same time, travel ‘poshly’ without spending so much. But believe it or not, I chose to drop one of my jobs – and this one can give me the best travel perks imaginable.
1. There’s no point of working from home if you do not spend time with your kids
Since I needed to juggle multiple jobs, I have jeopardized my time with the kids. I can only talk to them for less than an hour per day!
When they grow up, I want them to remember me as someone they can talk to or play with, and not the mom who was a bit monstrous every time they attempt to talk to me while I finish some urgent tasks.
2. If you are not passionate about something, or at least happy with what you do – just leave!
My family and friends know how passionate I am about work. But if I get emotionally drained, that’s when I leave.
Some people say that I am brave to do such. Maybe?
I guess this is one of our society’s challenges. We try not to leave our jobs because of emotional stress. After all, we have our responsibilities that will not stop even if we decided to leave our work. I’m starting to believe that we are afraid to leave our jobs because we feel that it’s the only thing we are good at and we are scared of new adjustments that might hit your finances bad.
I think, what we need to do is to invest on new learnings and use those to jump into a brand new career. This isn’t easy. But then again, I’d rather have enough cash on hand than carry an emotional baggage.
When you resign, rest for a while. But I don’t mean that you have to ‘slack’. Use the time to think of another strategy that will help you leap further.
3. Money isn’t everything, most especially if you have learned to live a simple life
If you know me, then you are probably aware that I love everything simple. I love simple clothes, simple gadgets and simple life in general. That kind of attitude was magnified when I became a mother and decided to instill the same principle to my kids. I think it works because I am proud to say that my kids do not easily get envious if other children have better and more expensive toys. Plus, they would thank you even if you buy them the cheapest ones you can find. They are not after the price, but they are after the value and the reason behind your gifts.
My daughter would always say this after I give her my gifts or ‘pasalubongs’.
“Did you buy this because you love me?”
I would, of course, say YES! Because I really do. And that’s her cue to hug me. Ahhhh, priceless!
Again, this doesn’t mean that I will stop looking for means to make it big somewhere. In fact, I am going to this huge conference few weeks from now, with high hopes to establish a network. Plus, I am back to learning the trends of Real Estate and finally break a sale which will allow me to build my own training camp. Well, that’s the plan for now. It is ambitious (I know) and it will be tiring. But at least I will get tired and exhausted for things I am happy about.
I guess what I am trying to say is that, you don’t have to drown yourself in things which will suck the fun out of your system. Of course, I am not pushing you to quit easily. But always try to gauge your boiling point. If there are things or people that you think are not beneficial for you, leave. The universe has so much to offer. Attract the ones that will make you happy. After all, what’s the use of being alive if you won’t live?
I’ve been a WAHM for years already. If you have been following my blog, you’d know that I started working from home years ago and then went back to the corporate world and then back to being a WAHM. 🙂 I was having – shall I say – A QUARTER LIFE CRISIS. HA!
I’m a bit used to ‘You are so lucky you work from home’ lines from different people – mostly from those who are working in the traditional offices. Well, I can’t deny the advantages of working from home. One, I don’t have to experience the traffic. Two, I can work without taking a shower first. Third, I can save a lot of money from not allocating budget for food and clothes. Four, for a young mom like me – working from home means spending more time with the kids.
But don’t get me wrong ok, it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. Working from home has its downside as well. While you think it’s all fun, I will share with you some of the challenges I face having my home as my office.
My Bed is Seducing Me
Oh gosh, if you think it’s hard to leave your beds to take a shower, it’s even harder to work knowing that your bed is just meters away from you. If you have tremendous discipline, you can work on your bed without turning your snooze button on. Otherwise, lock your bedroom (from the outside) and work in a more conducive area – like your living room if you don’t have your own office.
Long Queues – Government Bills
One of the perks of being employed in a more traditional work setup is that all your government bills are being managed by your HR. Most of the time, if you are working from home, you are employed by a foreign national living overseas, or you are like me – working on a freelance setup. Either way, they won’t do the payment on your behalf. Hence, you need to do it on your own. And yes, it can be time consuming to fall in line. Unless of course, there’s an online payment system which I can use. For now, I’m not yet convinced. 🙂
My Son ‘Accidentally’ Closed the File … I Haven’t Saved my Report!!!
I know that the CTRL + S function should be a mandatory task before leaving my desk, but there are few times that I wasn’t able to do it.
And what a stroke of luck I had – my son was already closing my files … one by one! Well, what can I say? Maybe, just put a note beside your computer/ laptop with this – ‘SAVE FIRST BEFORE LEAVING YOUR DESK’ – make sure it’s BOLD.
Aside from that specific scenario, it’s normal for me to work with my son pulling my hair, or my daughter sitting on my lap. Yes, it is cute. But if you are in a call with your boss, it’s best to just mute your device first. 🙂 Or lock yourself for a serene 10 minutes.
Oh, There Goes my Favorite Film on Star Movies
Now here’s another hard to resist temptation. If there’s something good on TV, I would automatically pause for a ‘quick’ break.
QUICK?? (rolling her eyes)
Before I know it, 2 hours have already passed. Holy cheese and rice!
And this is something that I’m REALLY trying to work on.
Wait, What? She’s Pregnant?
And since your home has become your office, you have very little social life. You only get ‘chismis’ from your online friends, or if someone posted a “We are Pregnant’ status on facebook. It’s not really a bad thing, but sometimes you become outdated. The good side, I have to push myself to watch CNN to keep myself informed. I try to stay away from showbiz talk shows because my facebook feed has enough of it!
There. I guess, that’s just about it. If you have something to add, place your comments.
Some of you already asked me, “What exactly do you do?”
Basically, this post will give you an idea on how a work-from-home mom ‘works’, and perhaps jump to being one.
In 2010, after I have learned that I was pregnant, I tried to search online for job opportunities that would not require me to leave the comforts of our own home. Then I found www.onlinejobs.ph (you have to create a profile and obtain a decent proof id score to be able to apply). The concept is similar to that of JobsDB and Jobstreet where you can submit online applications. The only difference is, almost all the job offerings in that site are well, online *laughs*. This includes, but not limited to, Virtual Assistants, English Tutors, Webmasters, Graphic Designers, Video Editors and Content Writers.
I am a content writer.
Quick Back Story
Different employers will have different setup and requirements (obviously). My first one was for a Malaysian employer where I learned a lot about SEOs (Search Engine Optimization). After that, I was hired by a US employer and I lasted for a year, then I stopped. Well, you read my story about going back to the corporate world, right? If not, please check here. Now, I am working for another foreign company with a number of Filipino writers. Most of them are young, so luckily we get along just fine.
I’ll try to answer some of the questions that my readers have been asking me about my job. If you want to know more, just comment or drop an email.
Do you need to pay prior employment?
BA : No. It’s for free. If your ‘employer’ is asking for money, forget about it. There are so many employers out there.
Do you have to be an expert in writing?
BA : Not really. But of course, you need to know the basic grammar. It helped that I took AB Communication and that we had Journalism classes. If you are a wide – reader and you have that love for words, I say give it a try.
How do you get paid?
BA : My previous employers paid me through paypal. It’s not hard to set up an account. My tip, get a UNION BANK debit card. That was the account that I linked to paypal. Five years ago, it was only that card that the system accepted. But man, maybe it’s different now.
For my current employer, they send the payment directly to my BDO account. Some employers will pay you by week, and some will pay you twice a month.
How much do you get?
Ooooh, enough for me to buy what we need and somehow what we want. Plus, I can still save some dough. But for the new ones, the average would be around $300 – $350.
From what I have noticed, those who earn big from online jobs are the programmers. If you are one, then go for it.
What is your work shift?
BA : Ok, I have 2 online jobs. One is a part time job from my previous company where I make business reviews etc. (MWF, 8:00AM – 12:00NN). The other one is my full time job as a content writer (Mondays – Fridays, 2:00PM – 11:00PM).
Do they monitor if you are online?
BA: Quite frankly, they do not strictly monitor if I am working or not. But that doesn’t mean that I take my work lightly. I log in and log out as necessary and I try to complete my daily task. However, there are some companies that would take screenshots from your computer just to see if you are really working.
There. Am I missing anything? If yes, you know the drill, OK?
I am sure you can think of the pros of working from home, but I’d still give you a list.
You don’t have to wake up early.
You can say goodbye to stressful commutes.
You don’t have to wear makeup (definitely good for the skin)
You can save a lot (transportation costs, food allowance, wardrobe) Imagine having extra cash for the kids and for your beauty allowance. Oh my gosh!
You can say goodbye to office gossips. Not healthy at all!
Lastly, more time with your kids. Now, nothing can beat that.
However, you need to discipline yourself when you are working from home. Definitely, you’d have distractions. That can be your TV, or your baby crying on the side, or your landline ringing. I guess I will make another post about how you can manage yourself when you are working in your jammies. I don’t want to make this post long. 🙂
And we are getting bigger! YAY!
The number of work-from-home moms is increasing! I was able to talk to two of my friends and asked them few questions about their work. Go ahead, scroll down.
How were you able to get the job?
POM : “Prior to joining CWT, I spent 8yrs as the Program Management Manager at CWT’s local partner. After I left, I spent a couple of months in Concentrix working as the Manager of their Travel Desk when I received a call from CWT offering this post. ”
How do you balance your time between work and your kids? If you used to work with an 8 – 5 job, what are the changes?
POM: “Working from home has its pros and cons – not having to wake up early in the morning and worrying about the rush traffic is definitely a plus.
You only miss out on the daily office grind which includes missing out on building work relations with your peers. This is well compensated with spending more time with your kids- being part of what you discover together as they grow up.
It is definitely a juggling act but life in general always is – the only difference is you now have more personal time at hand.”
Tips to young moms who would like to work from home
POM: “If you are given the opportunity to work from home, grab it. Nothing beats spending quality time with your kids but at the same time achieving your career goals.
It’s up to you to weigh the balance between wailing kids or diaper changes and juggling conference calls and client reports all at the same time.”
I was able to personally work with Ms. Pom few years ago. In fact, she was one of the superiors that I mentioned from my previous post. I know for a fact that she is smart and is really a master of time management. I’m not surprised that she can finish a report and still review his son for his exams. Congratulations to him and to you of course, for being number one, AGAIN! 🙂
How do you balance your time between work and your kids?
Mars: “Since my login time is 9am to 5pm, I help my eldest get dressed for school, make sure he eats his breakfast, and bring him to his school. In the afternoon, when it is almost dismissal time, I logout, fetch my son and bring him to the tutorial center. When we get home, I login again and render the remaining hours needed to complete my shift.
As for my daughter, who hasn’t started school yet, I make sure she eats her breakfast, prepare her bath, and then play with her for a few hours up until my shift starts. Sometimes, when my work is not that hectic, I stay beside her and together we would watch movies or her favorite TV shows.
After my shift, we eat our dinner and then I would prepare our baths, tidy them up, and more bonding moments in the bedroom before we go to sleep.”
Tips to young moms who would like to work from home
Mars: “The key is always time management. It can be quite hard working full time and being a full time mother at the same time. Be sure to always have time for the children and try to finish work ahead of time so that there would be more time spent for the kids. It’s really a different feeling when the kids know that you are “at work” despite being in the comforts of home. Also, be grateful that you are given the chance to work at home and look after the children and be there for them when they need you the most.”
Mars and I graduated from the same school and well, we are almost the same age. I really admire her dedication as an employee and a mother. She is definitely the queen of multi – tasking. Imagine writing an article and then rushing to your son’s school. Supermom indeed! I have also seen her posts and photos and I must say, she really spends quality time with the kids.
I have to thank the wonders of technology for paving way in having these types of work-from-home jobs. As for you, why not take advantage of it?
Now, if you can’t resign from your office job, it’s not really a problem. Here’s a tip for you. BE HONEST. Ask your superiors or employers if there is a possibility to work from home. You’d be surprised how understanding companies are right now. Just give it a try! 🙂
I hope this helps and I hope you enjoyed the weekend.
BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to firstname.lastname@example.org