Why I Don’t Gauge My Kids Based on Grades

Why I Don’t Gauge My Kids Based on Grades


When I became a mom and my son started going to school, I already created a mindset that I wouldn’t push them to get skyrocketing grades. What matters to me is that they learn, they do what they do best, and that their social behaviour develops properly.

Why am I writing this post?

I know some parents would push and sometimes force their kids to get good grades. While there is nothing wrong about having great grades on the report card, I sometimes feel that as parents, we should allow our kids to enjoy school, most especially in the first years.  Forcing them to get straight As at the age of 4 or 5 is never going to be fun! Except if your kids really show the interest in such. 

Where am I coming from?

Let’s backtrack a bit and you know, give you an idea where I am coming from.

I used to be grade conscious. I remember being one of the top students in the class, crying over an 86/95 score in an exam. It wasn’t healthy. For me, my ultimate goal was to get good grades, and not to learn. Obviously, that’s not a good motivation.

Ask yourself again, “Why would you go to school?”

If you answered, to get good grades’, I sincerely think that it is a shallow reason.

Going back,  I got tired of it and come 3rd grade, I was not included in the honor list.


For a 9 year – old, the world shattered.

And then 4th Grade Started 

For some reason, I felt that I was quite mature for my age. At the age of 10, I told myself that I wouldn’t force myself to get high grades. Instead, I decided NOT to stress myself on academics and just focus on things where I am good at.

I was good at speaking and singing. I have bagged awards year after year (and I think my batchmates were already tired of hearing me sing). Kasi even the national anthem during the flag ceremony, ako na yung kumakanta!  Anyway, I even represented my school in big speaking competitions and won. Trust me, it wasn’t your usual competition where you’d already know your standing. It was hard and it was months of preparation. I knew I was good at it, so I worked my arse!  Yabang noh?

Point is, I knew back then that the school is much more than Science and Math or whatever subjects we had. I was a firm believer that we have different kinds of intelligence. Mine was a bit more on the artsy side, you know – music, linguistic and interpersonal intelligence. Sometimes I wonder why I got in the Science Curriculum section. Brad, yung mga classmates ko sobrang talino! Haha

I don’t want to make this post very long because I have a call in 30 minutes and I need to finish my reports. Again, I’ve seen parents getting sad because their kids were not able to make it in the top list. But for me, we have to show them that grades are not the gauge for success. You have to set an example that you believe in them, regardless if they get a 100 or a 75.  For me, the traditional schools can measure a minute part of one’s intelligence. But boy, the world is so big and your kids have so much to offer.



From there, see which areas your kids are good at. Then hone it.

Imagine this, they are improving their skills, while enjoying their childhood. Don’t torture them by feeding things which they are not yet ready to swallow. Although, I suggest that you help them create a study habit. Ah, which reminds me, can you help me with this one?

From your young WAHM, Love you, moms!


Young Mom’s Tips – Bringing your Toddlers to Cinema

Well, I have decided to bring my kids to the nearest mall and I wanted to try something new for them.

I took them to the movie house to watch Cinderella.

I decided to take them to a movie.
I decided to take them to a movie.

I was actually hesitant at first. I am sure you are aware that Cinderella 2015 isn’t a cartoon. I felt that it would just bore them to death. My son is 4 years old, while my daughter is 2.

What the heck. I just did it.

3 tickets, 2 small bags of popcorn and 2 small sodas


I thought that was all I needed.

The movie trailers made them laugh. The Frozen Fever (which was a small stint before the movie) made my daughter’s eyes popped! And then, the real deal.

Ok, Cinderella rolling now.


After seeing few scenes from the movie, I was already giving both my kids that ‘PLEASE-SIT-DOWN-OR-ELSE’ look. My daughter started going up and down the cinema’s stairs, and my son started to complain and made excuses just to leave.

We ended the show of course, but I brought home some valuable lessons which I’m going to share with you.

Thinking of bringing your toddlers to the movies? Here are some tips from my fresh experience. 🙂

Tip 1. Stick with cartoons or a movie with a lot, and I mean A LOT of visual effects.

Who doesn’t love magic, fairy dust, giants, candies and colorful visual effects? Kids do not actually interpret the whole plot of a movie, most of them are just amazed by the visual effects. I have proven this when Cinderella’s godmother turned the pumpkin into a carriage. That was one of the few times my daughter stayed in her seat.

Tip 2. Choose seats which are near the aisle.

You wouldn’t want to annoy other movie-goers just because you need to stand up every so often because your kids are running around, or wanted to ‘visit’ the restroom.

Tip 3. Prepare some milk.

Pacify them by giving them milk. I was so grateful I had brought two. 🙂 The downside, your kids might doze off.

Tip 4.Buy additional chips.

If they don’t want milk, then popcorn or a bag of chips might be a substitute for now.

Tip 5. Go to the restroom prior movie.

Not just for the kids, right? *wink*  If your toddlers are still on diapers, change it first before going inside the movie house.

Tip 8. Prolong your patience.

Otherwise, just wait for few more years to watch another movie, or stick with DVDs for now. 🙂

All in all, the experience wasn’t that bad. It was one of their milestones to watch a movie inside a dark cinema. Perhaps, I’ll just choose a better movie for my toddlers next time. Spongebob maybe? What do you think?

BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to ba_isla@yahoo.com