Last April 16, 2017, we were invited to attend Vivere’s Easter event, #EasterGalacticVivere. Call me a loser but it was my first time to attend such. And yes, I had so much fun. As for my kids – they were ecstatic! Watch my video and see the cool and fun activities we did.
Ok, here it goes. I know madami akong matatamaan (mostly my friends pa) with this post. But hey, I’ve stayed silent for the past few weeks and it’s about time that I tell you my piece. I can’t say I have an ‘A’ when it comes to Social Media Etiquette. Dumaan din naman ako sa stage na nagpaparinig at nagpapapansin with my posts on Facebook – isama mo na ang Friendster. But let me tell you what, when you reach a certain age (like mine – late 20s), baka dapat you check what you post. Hindi lahat ng ganaps and hanash mo sa buhay teh kelangan mo ibroadcast sa mundo. ☺
What are the things you should NOT post on your social media accounts (or at least limitahan man lang)?
1. Multiple selfies – GUILTY! Until one day, narealize ko na ang lakas maka-jejemon ng paulit- ulit kong pagpapa-cute! If maganda ang lighting, sige push and take shots. Wag mo na ipost lahat siguro. Pumili ka lang ng maganda -ganda, tapos pak na. Gets na namin na blooming ka, hindi na kelangan na benteng shots na iisa ang background. Kung COMPIDENCE ka, you don’t need to hoard for likes on Facebook. Putek, paano kaming mga hindi photogenic? Luge na agad. Hahaha!
2. Lahat ng kasosyalan na ginawa mo – Slightly guilty lang ako. Jologs naman ako at some levels so kinikilig pa din ako when I stay in hotels or I eat out. Syempre, ‘check in at’ agad ang drama natin most of the time. Pero please, iwasan natin yung ober ober sa ganito. Ok lang na maging proud once in a while. Lalo na if pinagpaguran mo ang kasosyalang natatamasa mo. Ok lang din na i-share mo kung gaano ka ka-naive sa dami ng kubyertos when you were invited sa isang dinner na kakaramput ang pagkain sa plato. Minsan lang kasi, nagiging insensitive na tayo and at times, nagmumukhang shallow in life. I can identify these posts into 3 categories.
A. Sharing the sosyal experience (plain and simple dahil talagang ka-post post ang kape mo)
B. Humble bragging (medyo niyayabang mo lang pero acceptable kasi mayaman ka talaga siguro or may storya paano ka nakabili ng sapatos mula sa humble beginnings mo na sipit na tsinelas mula sa palengke? )
C. Hambog posting (besh, bayaran mo muna utang mo! plain na pagyayabang – di ko alam objective nito e)
3. Personal views and beliefs – Actually this isn’t really bad to post. Pero let’s also respect the opinions and beliefs of other people. Naaalala mo pa ba kung ilan ang na-unfriend mo noong National Elections? Given na kasi na magkakaiba tayo ng pananaw sa buhay. Wag mong pilit isaksak ang gusto mo.
Dun na lang tayo sa context ng politics ok? Yun kasi ang natatandaan ko na halos mag gyera sa newsfeed ko e. Hindi mo kelangan laitin ang mga taong hindi boboto sa kandidato mo. Mas ok siguro na i-highlight mo bakit sya ang bet mo. Baka sakaling mapalipat mo pa ng desisyon ang ibang tao.
4. Problema mo sa personal life – Sabi nga nila, face your problem. Don’t facebook it! Sa totoo lang day, huwag mong gawin trial by publicity ang away ng pamilya or friends. Maging mature tayo at harapin ng ayos ang mga pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Kausapin mo ang tao, pag di umayos – IHABLA MO! Di na siguro kelangan pang ipost. Minsan pati, bias tayo e. Baka masobrahan ang sinasabi mo against other people. Brad, mahirap yan – baka makasuhan tayo pabalik. Or if may problema ka, kuha ka ng inspirational quotes. Para lang may babalik – balikan ka na reminder – tutal, ilang beses mo naman naiiscroll ang sarili mong timeline sa loob ng isang araw di ba?
5. Lastly, problema mo sa trabaho! – Dito ako sobrang asar e! Ginawa mo naman HR department ang facebook? Doon ka talaga nag post ng reklamo mo e noh? Mali di ba? Pwede kasing daanin sa tama. If may problema ka sa trabaho mo, make a formal complaint. Gusto mo ipataas mo pa sa DOLE, pero kasi kung sa Facebook mo ilalagay yan, to be brutally frank – ikaw yung mukhang g*go. Para kang nagsusumbong na bata e. Tapos hindi mo ba naisip, ang dami mong friends sa office, sama mo na boss mo. Kung sana sinabi mo na ang issue at hindi nag – post agad, baka sakaling naayos ang problema. Dear, sayo nagrereflect lahat ng sasabihin mo against your company. Kasi if ako tatanungin mo, it’s either hindi mo kaya ang work, or hindi mo alam paano kausapin ang mga tao sa office ng ayos.
P.S. At kung may reklamo ka sa accounts mo, dear huwag mo naman ilagay yung company name. Baka kasi nakakalimutan mo na may Non – Disclosure – Agreement kayo. Patay ka pag nagkataon!
Hindi ako high – blood. Bihira ako magalit lalo na kung mga kaekekan sa social media. Pero minsan, kelangan ko na din magsalita (or mag type). Kasi sa tingin ko talaga, originally ang social media, ginawa with a positive objective e. Hindi yan para manira ka, maglabas ng galit or mag share ng negative vibes.
OMG, dadami na ang galit sa akin! 🙂
Your young mom,
Why I Don’t Gauge My Kids Based on Grades
When I became a mom and my son started going to school, I already created a mindset that I wouldn’t push them to get skyrocketing grades. What matters to me is that they learn, they do what they do best, and that their social behaviour develops properly.
Why am I writing this post?
I know some parents would push and sometimes force their kids to get good grades. While there is nothing wrong about having great grades on the report card, I sometimes feel that as parents, we should allow our kids to enjoy school, most especially in the first years. Forcing them to get straight As at the age of 4 or 5 is never going to be fun! Except if your kids really show the interest in such.
Where am I coming from?
Let’s backtrack a bit and you know, give you an idea where I am coming from.
I used to be grade conscious. I remember being one of the top students in the class, crying over an 86/95 score in an exam. It wasn’t healthy. For me, my ultimate goal was to get good grades, and not to learn. Obviously, that’s not a good motivation.
Ask yourself again, “Why would you go to school?”
If you answered, to get good grades’, I sincerely think that it is a shallow reason.
Going back, I got tired of it and come 3rd grade, I was not included in the honor list.
For a 9 year – old, the world shattered.
And then 4th Grade Started
For some reason, I felt that I was quite mature for my age. At the age of 10, I told myself that I wouldn’t force myself to get high grades. Instead, I decided NOT to stress myself on academics and just focus on things where I am good at.
I was good at speaking and singing. I have bagged awards year after year (and I think my batchmates were already tired of hearing me sing). Kasi even the national anthem during the flag ceremony, ako na yung kumakanta! Anyway, I even represented my school in big speaking competitions and won. Trust me, it wasn’t your usual competition where you’d already know your standing. It was hard and it was months of preparation. I knew I was good at it, so I worked my arse! Yabang noh?
Point is, I knew back then that the school is much more than Science and Math or whatever subjects we had. I was a firm believer that we have different kinds of intelligence. Mine was a bit more on the artsy side, you know – music, linguistic and interpersonal intelligence. Sometimes I wonder why I got in the Science Curriculum section. Brad, yung mga classmates ko sobrang talino! Haha
I don’t want to make this post very long because I have a call in 30 minutes and I need to finish my reports. Again, I’ve seen parents getting sad because their kids were not able to make it in the top list. But for me, we have to show them that grades are not the gauge for success. You have to set an example that you believe in them, regardless if they get a 100 or a 75. For me, the traditional schools can measure a minute part of one’s intelligence. But boy, the world is so big and your kids have so much to offer.
From there, see which areas your kids are good at. Then hone it.
Imagine this, they are improving their skills, while enjoying their childhood. Don’t torture them by feeding things which they are not yet ready to swallow. Although, I suggest that you help them create a study habit. Ah, which reminds me, can you help me with this one?
From your young WAHM, Love you, moms!
Don’t get me wrong ok? I’m not broken – hearted. In fact, I’m pretty much in love with God, myself and my kids. I’m taking a rest from this dating game because I would like to be the best version of myself when the right one comes along.
Anyway, this post is meant to entertain only. Walang basagan ng trip pwede? Minsan lang ako magkaroon ng more than 1 hour of free time from work, so might as well do something creative. Ready?
How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with a Broken Heart
1. Don’t listen to ‘senti‘ songs – Music is too darn powerful. Kung bet mo ibuhos ang mga luha mo kasabay ng araw ng mga puso, e di push mo yan. Pero if you want to spare yourself from having eye – bags, pwede ba ate – IBAHIN MO PLAYLIST MO!
2. Please lang, huwag ka muna mag Facebook (or any other social – media for few days) – Huwag mo patayin ang sarili mo sa inggit. Magbasa ka ng libro, or di kaya you pumunta ka sa mga isolated na lugar – yung sure ka na walang couples. In short, stay at home brad. STAY AT HOME!
3. Manuod ka ng horror or siguro action, pwede na din ang sci – fi, basta walang kissing scenes! – The key is to divert your attention. Sayang wala ng rentahan ng betamax noh? Pero dude, check online for movies na bakbakan. Or di kaya yung mga suspense. Pasakitin mo ang puso mo sa ibang dahilan!
4. Magluto ka at kumain sa bahay nyo – Sabi ko sayo stay at home ka muna e, tapos mag ala – chef kuno ka muna at magluto sa bahay nyo. Kahit di ka marunong, i – push mo yang perfect corned – beef mo! Or maybe, get that microwavable popcorn para partner na ng movie marathon.
5. Padala ka ng flowers and chocolates sa sarili mo – Ayaw mo talaga paawat, sige regaluhan mo sarili mo ng bulaklak or chocolates. Gandahan mo ang dedication ha. Lagay mo, “You made the right decision!” Kasi bes, mahalin mo naman muna ang sarili mo! Wag kang ano – kaya ka inaano!
Enough of my sarcasm, in reality, you don’t have to be bitter. I would like to think that Valentine’s Day isn’t only for romantic love.
It’s for all kinds of love.
Celebrate it with family, friends and even your colleagues. Or if you want to be on you own, that’s probably a great idea too. If you ask me, I love to travel when I need to mend a broken heart. And no, I don’t take loads of photos. Instead, I embrace the new environment and use the time to keep things in perspective.
Alam nyo, sa isang banda, ok din ang masaktan. Kasi doon ako naging mas malakas, doon ako mas naging matalino sa buhay. Sabi nga nila, kung ano ikinatalino ko sa acads, siyang kinatanga ko sa pagibig (although hindi naman ako super talino talaga – haha!) Pero hindi naman siguro pagiging tanga ang pagmamahal. Slight, pero hindi totally ano?
Sa totoo lang, I couldn’t give you advice on love. Putek, romantic love life ko nga zero ngayong taon. Pero siguro gusto kong sabihin na, hindi lang dapat nakadepende ang saya ng puso mo sa iisang tao. Madami ang nagmamahal sayo – baka this time, sila naman ang pagtuunan mo.
I can’t explain how busy I am right now. By far, this is my ‘busiest’. To be honest, I sometimes doubt myself if I can still handle things (work and personal life). But nah, the fighter in me would always win. Maybe I am just in that ‘adjustment’ phase and probably I need to wake up earlier to finish my tasks.
Nevertheless, I thank God for all the opportunities. Maybe He is trying to pre – occupy my days so that I won’t have to think much of things that can bring me down.
To this single mom, go fight!
I’ll be back blogging or vlogging, whichever comes easier. For now, damn I need to finish reports.
If you have been reading my previous posts, you’d probably know by now that I work multiple jobs. Some of my friends would ask me how I do such.
Truth be told, it can get overwhelming. But the trick here is to identify which are the most urgent tasks. List it according to priority and try to target 70% from your list.
And when you are done, treat yourself. It can be a pishbol merienda, or a retail therapy from the nearest ukay – ukay!
So yes, I turned 28 yesterday and I threw a simple party for my family.
If you have watched my video, you’d see me teary – eyed because I feel so blessed, not with tangible things but something even better. I think God has given me the opportunity to spend more time with my kids, while increasing my income month after month (not to mention multiple travel opportunities I had last year).
Again, my life isn’t perfect. I am still searching for a lifetime partner. But that doesn’t mean I’m sad or frustrated. Today, I decided to let go of someone who has been a part of my life for the past years. I did it with a very heavy heart, but I know it was the best choice for the both of us. Wag na kayo magisip kung sino, but I had a special relationship with ‘Voldemort’ – kasi ang peg nya ‘He – Who – Must – Not – Be – Named’.
Not just about within the confinements of love, but I now believe that if there are certain things that isn’t working out good and that you just feel negatively over it, you might have to reconsider parking it until such time that you can have a better solution – or just leave it and move on.
I guess, you can say I matured a bit given all the experiences life threw at me, and for now I am focused on being a mother and an entrepreneur, doing crazy things to earn more – and possibly pay it forward to other people.
This is BA, your YMommyB – 28 (not so young in number, but definitely young at heart!)