Trust God’s Plan and You Will be Fine

I just want to share with you my quick story where I gave my full trust to God.

Ok, so almost lost my job because a lot of writers for the company that I work for submitted mediocre write-ups. Our manager was furious and decided to kick us all.

I was a bit sad because the money from that ‘raket’ was supposed to be for my son’s birthday. I had no idea where to get extra money and of course, I still have bills on the way. For some reason, I was calm when I heard the news. I prayed and asked for God’s guidance. I said, “I am lifting everything to Him”.

After an hour, I received a message that I will still have my job back and that I am one of the best writers in the team. I needed to do a last ‘test’ to have my job back and apparently, got it.

During my exam, I asked God to send me the Holy Spirit to help me get through it. AND I DID!

I am not saying that you just sit down and wait for His plans to materialize. You have to do your part. As cliche as this may sound, You do your best and God will do the REST.

 

Good night!

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Stop Calling Working Moms Lazy!

I am not your traditional mom who stays at home, washes the dishes, irons the clothes, teaches my kids after school and …well,the list goes on. (you get it right?)

I am one of those moms who need to work twice as much because apart from the dirty dishes, we need to earn and settle the bills.

Here’s a secret, though. I wanted to quit my jobs to focus on being a traditional mom… And this feeling often happens. I wanted to take such role because I am certain on how exhausting yet fulfilling it is to be one.

If only I have an option.

If only I can relax and stop all the expenses.

Reality check, in cases like mine, we need to hustle because as clichè as this may sound, money doesn’t grow on trees.

Sad to say, there are still closed-minded people who believe we are incapable of becoming good moms just because we are holding reports and not pans most of the time.

I have few questions to those who belittle working moms.

-Why is it so easy for you to tell that a mother is lazy if she opted to work in front of the laptop and not in front of the stove?

-Why do you judge moms as if they are incompetent when they can’t fold shirts and iron pants?

– Why do you give them looks of disapproval just because they can’t regularly review the kids from school?

– Why can’t you understand that we have different lives and in our case, we need to work to survive?

I say, stop branding us ‘Lazy’ or even ‘good for nothing’ just because we don’t fit your description of being a mother. We salute the hands-on moms, but you need to know that it is not easy being a working mom too. We have our own battles and the least we can do is to support each other and to not drag us down just because of our differences.

It’s about time to celebrate all kinds of mothers whether she’s wearing a bun, or sporting a purple hair.

 

 

 

How do you deal with rejection?

At 28, I have had my fair share of rejections. I’m talking about failure in multitude aspect of my life. But you know, these failures are just doors to create something better. It’s just a matter of how you look at it. Use your failure as a stepping stone!

I am not telling you that it is bad to get sad. But let me tell you what – give yourself a couple of days to mourn and then that’s it.

Get a pen, plan and get your life back on track.

Why I decided to Leave One of My Jobs – Hint! Because Money Isn’t Everything

I have multiple jobs. It’s not just because I am a workaholic. It’s because I want to give the best life my kids could have. Yes, their father supports them but to be brutally frank about it, it’s not enough to give them the life I have imagined. Thus, I used to have 5 jobs (excluding my sidelines for real estate and training gigs).

It came to a point that I earn more than those who are living and working overseas. In fact, I can easily get a car or house and pay for it without worries. Sounds cool, right? I mean, I get to earn well and at the same time, travel ‘poshly’ without spending so much. But believe it or not, I chose to drop one of my jobs – and this one can give me the best travel perks imaginable.

Why? 

1. There’s no point of working from home if you do not spend time with your kids 

Since I needed to juggle multiple jobs, I have jeopardized my time with the kids. I can only talk to them for less than an hour per day!

Not good.

When they grow up, I want them to remember me as someone they can talk to or play with, and not the mom who was a bit monstrous every time they attempt to talk to me while I finish some urgent tasks.

2. If you are not passionate about something, or at least happy with what you do – just leave! 

My family and friends know how passionate I am about work. But if I get emotionally drained, that’s when I leave.

Some people say that I am brave to do such. Maybe?

I guess this is one of our society’s challenges. We try not to leave our jobs because of emotional stress. After all, we have our responsibilities that will not stop even if we decided to leave our work. I’m starting to believe that we are afraid to leave our jobs because we feel that it’s the only thing we are good at and we are scared of new adjustments that might hit your finances bad.

I think, what we need to do is to invest on new learnings and use those to jump into a brand new career. This isn’t easy. But then again, I’d rather have enough cash on hand than carry an emotional baggage.

When you resign, rest for a while. But I don’t mean that you have to ‘slack’. Use the time to think of another strategy that will help you leap further.

3. Money isn’t everything, most especially if you have learned to live a simple life 

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If you know me, then you are probably aware that I love everything simple. I love simple clothes, simple gadgets and simple life in general. That kind of attitude was magnified when I became a mother and decided to instill the same principle to my kids. I think it works because I am proud to say that my kids do not easily get envious if other children have better and more expensive toys. Plus, they would thank you even if you buy them the cheapest ones you can find. They are not after the price, but they are after the value and the reason behind your gifts.

My daughter would always say this after I give her my gifts or ‘pasalubongs’.

“Did you buy this because you love me?”

I would, of course, say YES! Because I really do. And that’s her cue to hug me. Ahhhh, priceless!

Again, this doesn’t mean that I will stop looking for means to make it big somewhere. In fact, I am going to this huge conference few weeks from now, with high hopes to establish a network. Plus, I am back to learning the trends of Real Estate and finally break a sale which will allow me to build my own training camp. Well, that’s the plan for now. It is ambitious (I know) and it will be tiring. But at least I will get tired and exhausted for things I am happy about.

I guess what I am trying to say is that, you don’t have to drown yourself in things which will suck the fun out of your system. Of course, I am not pushing you to quit easily. But always try to gauge your boiling point. If there are things or people that you think are not beneficial for you, leave. The universe has so much to offer. Attract the ones that will make you happy. After all, what’s the use of being alive if you won’t live?

 

 

 

Who are we to complain?

Are you always complaining about your life? Always seeing the bad side of things?

Well, have you tried turning the table around and see the great things about your life? You, being alive, for that matter.

You see, our happiness will not rely on other people, not on material things, nor on our achievements. If you always find reasons to complain, nothing will make you feel cheerful.

Watch my short video earlier today about my thoughts about regularly complaining  ☺

Your Guide to Social Media Etiquette

Ok, here it goes. I know madami akong matatamaan (mostly my friends pa) with this post. But hey, I’ve stayed silent for the past few weeks and it’s about time that I tell you my piece. I can’t say I have an ‘A’ when it comes to Social Media Etiquette. Dumaan din naman ako sa stage na nagpaparinig at nagpapapansin with my posts on Facebook – isama mo na ang Friendster. But let me tell you what, when you reach a certain age (like mine – late 20s), baka dapat you check what you post. Hindi lahat ng ganaps and hanash mo sa buhay teh kelangan mo ibroadcast sa mundo. ☺

What are the things you should NOT post on your social media accounts (or at least limitahan man lang)?

1. Multiple selfies – GUILTY! Until one day, narealize ko na ang lakas maka-jejemon ng paulit- ulit kong pagpapa-cute! If maganda ang lighting, sige push and take shots. Wag mo na ipost lahat siguro. Pumili ka lang ng maganda -ganda, tapos pak na. Gets na namin na blooming ka, hindi na kelangan na benteng shots na iisa ang background. Kung COMPIDENCE ka, you don’t need to hoard for likes on Facebook. Putek, paano kaming mga hindi photogenic? Luge na agad. Hahaha!

2. Lahat ng kasosyalan na ginawa mo – Slightly guilty lang ako. Jologs naman ako at some levels so kinikilig pa din ako when I stay in hotels or I eat out. Syempre, ‘check in at’ agad ang drama natin most of the time. Pero please, iwasan natin yung ober ober sa ganito. Ok lang na maging proud once in a while. Lalo na if pinagpaguran mo ang kasosyalang natatamasa mo. Ok lang din na i-share mo kung gaano ka ka-naive sa dami ng kubyertos when you were invited sa isang dinner na kakaramput ang pagkain sa plato. Minsan lang kasi, nagiging insensitive na tayo and at times, nagmumukhang shallow in life. I can identify these posts into 3 categories.

A. Sharing the sosyal experience (plain and simple dahil talagang ka-post post ang kape mo)

B. Humble bragging (medyo niyayabang mo lang pero acceptable kasi mayaman ka talaga siguro or may storya paano ka nakabili ng sapatos mula sa humble beginnings mo na sipit na tsinelas mula sa palengke? )

C. Hambog posting (besh, bayaran mo muna utang mo! plain na pagyayabang – di ko alam objective nito e)

3. Personal views and beliefs – Actually this isn’t really bad to post. Pero let’s also respect the opinions and beliefs of other people. Naaalala mo pa ba kung ilan ang na-unfriend mo noong National Elections? Given na kasi na magkakaiba tayo ng pananaw sa buhay. Wag mong pilit isaksak ang gusto mo.

Dun na lang tayo sa context ng politics ok? Yun kasi ang natatandaan ko na halos mag gyera sa newsfeed ko e. Hindi mo kelangan laitin ang mga taong hindi boboto sa kandidato mo. Mas ok siguro na i-highlight mo bakit sya ang bet mo. Baka sakaling mapalipat mo pa ng desisyon ang ibang tao.

4. Problema mo sa personal life – Sabi nga nila, face your problem. Don’t facebook it! Sa totoo lang day, huwag mong gawin trial by publicity ang away ng pamilya or friends. Maging mature tayo at harapin ng ayos ang mga pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Kausapin mo ang tao, pag di umayos – IHABLA MO! Di na siguro kelangan pang ipost. Minsan pati, bias tayo e. Baka masobrahan ang sinasabi mo against other people. Brad, mahirap yan – baka makasuhan tayo pabalik. Or if may problema ka, kuha ka ng inspirational quotes. Para lang may babalik – balikan ka na reminder – tutal, ilang beses mo naman naiiscroll ang sarili mong timeline sa loob ng isang araw di ba?

5. Lastly, problema mo sa trabaho! – Dito ako sobrang asar e! Ginawa mo naman HR department ang  facebook? Doon ka talaga nag post ng reklamo mo e noh? Mali di ba? Pwede kasing daanin sa tama. If may problema ka sa trabaho mo, make a formal complaint. Gusto mo ipataas mo pa sa DOLE, pero kasi kung sa Facebook mo ilalagay yan, to be brutally frank – ikaw yung mukhang g*go. Para kang nagsusumbong na bata e. Tapos hindi mo ba naisip, ang dami mong friends sa office, sama mo na boss mo. Kung sana sinabi mo na ang issue at hindi nag – post agad, baka sakaling naayos ang problema. Dear, sayo nagrereflect lahat ng sasabihin mo against your company. Kasi if ako tatanungin mo, it’s either hindi mo kaya ang work, or hindi mo alam paano kausapin ang mga tao sa office ng ayos.

 

P.S. At kung may reklamo ka sa accounts mo, dear huwag mo naman ilagay yung company name. Baka kasi nakakalimutan mo na may Non – Disclosure – Agreement kayo. Patay ka pag nagkataon!

Hindi ako high – blood. Bihira ako magalit lalo na kung mga kaekekan sa social media. Pero minsan, kelangan ko na din magsalita (or mag type). Kasi sa tingin ko talaga, originally ang social media, ginawa with a positive objective e. Hindi yan para manira ka, maglabas ng galit or mag share ng negative vibes.

OMG, dadami na ang galit sa akin! 🙂

Your young mom,

B

 

 

 

How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with a Broken Heart

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Don’t get me wrong ok? I’m not broken – hearted. In fact, I’m pretty much in love with God, myself and my kids. I’m taking a rest from this dating game because I would like to be the best version of myself when the right one comes along.

Anyway, this post is meant to entertain only. Walang basagan ng trip pwede? Minsan lang ako magkaroon ng more than 1 hour of free time from work, so might as well do something creative. Ready?

How to Celebrate Valentine’s Day with a Broken Heart

1. Don’t listen to ‘senti‘ songs – Music is too darn powerful. Kung bet mo ibuhos ang mga luha mo kasabay ng araw ng mga puso, e di push mo yan. Pero if you want to spare yourself from having eye – bags, pwede ba ate – IBAHIN MO PLAYLIST MO!

2. Please lang, huwag ka muna mag Facebook (or any other social – media for few days) – Huwag mo patayin ang sarili mo sa inggit. Magbasa ka ng libro, or di kaya you pumunta ka sa mga isolated na lugar – yung sure ka na walang couples. In short, stay at home brad. STAY AT HOME!

3. Manuod ka ng horror or siguro action, pwede na din ang sci – fi, basta walang kissing scenes! – The key is to divert your attention. Sayang wala ng rentahan ng betamax noh? Pero dude, check online for movies na bakbakan. Or di kaya yung mga suspense. Pasakitin mo ang puso mo sa ibang dahilan!

4. Magluto ka at kumain sa bahay nyo – Sabi ko sayo stay at home ka muna e, tapos mag ala – chef kuno ka muna at magluto sa bahay nyo. Kahit di ka marunong, i – push mo yang perfect corned – beef mo! Or maybe, get that microwavable popcorn para partner na ng movie marathon.

5. Padala ka ng flowers and chocolates sa sarili mo – Ayaw mo talaga paawat, sige regaluhan mo sarili mo ng bulaklak or chocolates. Gandahan mo ang dedication ha. Lagay mo, “You made the right decision!”  Kasi bes, mahalin mo naman muna ang sarili mo! Wag kang ano – kaya ka inaano!

Enough of my sarcasm, in reality, you don’t have to be bitter. I would like to think that Valentine’s Day isn’t only for romantic love.

It’s for all kinds of love.

Celebrate it with family, friends and even your colleagues. Or if you want to be on you own, that’s probably a great idea too. If you ask me, I love to travel when I need to mend a broken heart. And no, I don’t take loads of photos. Instead, I embrace the new environment and use the time to keep things in perspective.

Alam nyo, sa isang banda, ok din ang masaktan. Kasi doon ako naging mas malakas, doon ako mas naging matalino sa buhay. Sabi nga nila, kung ano ikinatalino ko sa acads, siyang kinatanga ko sa pagibig (although hindi naman ako super talino talaga – haha!)  Pero hindi naman siguro pagiging tanga ang pagmamahal. Slight, pero hindi totally ano?

Sa totoo lang, I couldn’t give you advice on love. Putek, romantic love life ko nga zero ngayong taon.  Pero siguro gusto kong sabihin na, hindi lang dapat nakadepende ang saya ng puso mo sa iisang tao. Madami ang nagmamahal sayo – baka this time, sila naman ang pagtuunan mo.

Happy BALENTAYMS!