Even Strong People Cry

How many times have I heard this, ‘You have a strong personality’.

Yes, I do. And at some point, I am really proud of it.

But behind that ‘facade’ is a little girl who wanted to be hugged. Behind that overpowering character is a young lady waiting for someone to realize that she is fragile, that she is – after all, a human being too.

I take challenges as if it is a puzzle to be solved. Most of the time, I get out of the ‘maze’ – on my own terms. But that doesn’t mean I don’t cry in the process – most of the time in the comforts of my own home.

Strong people get hurt. And we get hurt so bad because such doesn’t really happen a lot. 

Strong people get tired. And when we get tired, that means it has gone overboard. 

Strong people cry. And when we do, it’s because it pains us already. 

Strong people fake their smiles. Because we are expected to be strong even if at times we are at our weakest. 

And when these things happen, we question ourselves, ‘Where do we run to?’

For someone who’s the shock absorber, who’s going to absorb ours?

I sometimes think, should I cross the fence and just choose to be weak? Maybe by then, more people will realize that this strong person has soft spots too. That beyond that brick-like personality is someone in need of a simple question like ‘How are  you?’

…Or maybe, we weren’t strong after all. Because we fear to be weak.

 

 

 

 

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Pay It Forward: Spending A Couple of Hours at Nazareth, Bahay Pag-Ibig San Pablo City (Home for the Aged)

It has been months, or maybe years, since I dreamt of organizing an event. With the support of my family, we were able to make it a reality.

This month, we went to Nazareth, Bahay Pag-Ibig, a facility that caters to older people.

Truth be told, it wasn’t hard to organize knowing that we only wanted a small gathering for them. Here’s what we did.

1. Coordinated with the organizers on the date, headcount, and the every day things they need.

2. Asked my relatives to contribute small amounts of cash.

3. My auntie volunteered to do the grocery shopping while I stayed in touch with the coordinator for the final details.

4. One of my aunties prepared the soup and asked other volunteers to come with us.

5. We were supposed to have a program but due to technical difficulties, we had to scratch it off. That was actually a good thing because we became more ‘personal’ with our lolos and lolas.

We had mixed emotions after our small event. Of course, we were happy for being able to put smiles on their faces. At the same time, it tore our hearts knowing that some of them still have their families who just stopped visiting them.

A couple of hours might be too short for some, but it’s enough for us to feel such strong emotions.

And yes, we’ll continue this act and pay it forward.

Late Post: Celebrating my Son’s 7th Birthday

Hey Friends,

It’s been a while, because (as always) I was busy with work.

Last month, we celebrated my son’s 7th birthday. Thank heavens because I got a new side job to help me pay for most of it.

I was always ‘messy’ and boy I loved how it manifested on my son’s birthday 🙂

 

I have to thank my parents and my entire family for making it possible. It was a simple celebration but I have to say – the kids loved it!

How much did we spend?

I was working on a strict budget but didn’t want to compromise the ‘fun’. Thus, I chose to have a pool party for my son. No need to rent clowns, face paints, and photobooths. 🙂

  • Venue, Tables, Chairs, Balloons – PHP 10,000 (Thanks Ma and Pa!)
  • Food and other Decorations – PHP 15,000
  • Videoke – PHP 700
  • Clothes – PHP 1500

We spent approximately PHP 27,200! Ok – make it PHP 30,000. It’s not really big for a 7th birthday, right?

Simple cake. Simple treats. But at the end of the day, everyone loved it!
I am so lucky my family knows how to cook.
Who needs clowns and face paints when you have a pool?

 

Here are some ‘Behind-The-Scenes’:

My family is so supportive!

What I am trying to say is that you don’t have to throw a grand party, most especially if you can’t afford it. What matters most is that you remember the reason for the celebration.

 

P.S I have 2 years to prepare for my daughter’s 7th!

Trust God’s Plan and You Will be Fine

I just want to share with you my quick story where I gave my full trust to God.

Ok, so almost lost my job because a lot of writers for the company that I work for submitted mediocre write-ups. Our manager was furious and decided to kick us all.

I was a bit sad because the money from that ‘raket’ was supposed to be for my son’s birthday. I had no idea where to get extra money and of course, I still have bills on the way. For some reason, I was calm when I heard the news. I prayed and asked for God’s guidance. I said, “I am lifting everything to Him”.

After an hour, I received a message that I will still have my job back and that I am one of the best writers in the team. I needed to do a last ‘test’ to have my job back and apparently, got it.

During my exam, I asked God to send me the Holy Spirit to help me get through it. AND I DID!

I am not saying that you just sit down and wait for His plans to materialize. You have to do your part. As cliche as this may sound, You do your best and God will do the REST.

 

Good night!

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Stop Calling Working Moms Lazy!

I am not your traditional mom who stays at home, washes the dishes, irons the clothes, teaches my kids after school and …well,the list goes on. (you get it right?)

I am one of those moms who need to work twice as much because apart from the dirty dishes, we need to earn and settle the bills.

Here’s a secret, though. I wanted to quit my jobs to focus on being a traditional mom… And this feeling often happens. I wanted to take such role because I am certain on how exhausting yet fulfilling it is to be one.

If only I have an option.

If only I can relax and stop all the expenses.

Reality check, in cases like mine, we need to hustle because as clichè as this may sound, money doesn’t grow on trees.

Sad to say, there are still closed-minded people who believe we are incapable of becoming good moms just because we are holding reports and not pans most of the time.

I have few questions to those who belittle working moms.

-Why is it so easy for you to tell that a mother is lazy if she opted to work in front of the laptop and not in front of the stove?

-Why do you judge moms as if they are incompetent when they can’t fold shirts and iron pants?

– Why do you give them looks of disapproval just because they can’t regularly review the kids from school?

– Why can’t you understand that we have different lives and in our case, we need to work to survive?

I say, stop branding us ‘Lazy’ or even ‘good for nothing’ just because we don’t fit your description of being a mother. We salute the hands-on moms, but you need to know that it is not easy being a working mom too. We have our own battles and the least we can do is to support each other and to not drag us down just because of our differences.

It’s about time to celebrate all kinds of mothers whether she’s wearing a bun, or sporting a purple hair.

 

 

 

This Mom Went to Hong Kong and Learned Amazing Things from Travellers – RISE CONFERENCE 2017 Volunteer

This year, I went to Hong Kong to volunteer for RISE Conference 2017. Originally, the plan was to establish connection as I want to put up my own training camp. But things changed when I went there.

What it’s like to volunteer 

We had at least 4 hours of shift per day and let me tell you, it was exhausting! I chose Registration team because I know it would be one of the busiest teams and that would kill the time faster. I mean, that’s better than doing nothing, right?  Boy it did kill time! And it almost killed my legs. Nevertheless, it was cool! I loved being behind the QR code scanner, printing IDs and meeting nice, and of course, sometimes irate attendees.

Well, it’s not really hard to volunteer. For you to be one, just visit RISE Conference‘s website, and from there – you’d get to see the Volunteer’s page. You don’t have to be a scientist to get into the program. Your common sense and proper English will do you just fine. Prepare your CV because they will require it too. Oh, and bring dark – colored pants.

Apart from getting a FREE ticket to the conference, you get to meet a lot of people from different industries and of course, countries. However, I always needed to cut my visit to the hall or conference floor as I try to work in the afternoon. You see, I decided not to file ‘leaves’ because I need cash!  Haha. It was really fun because I never knew I’d meet new friends from all walks of life!

Will I volunteer again next year? YES!

RECOMMENDED accommodation – HONG KONG HOSTEL in Causeway Bay 

Location : A1, 3/F, Paterson Bldg., 47 Paterson St., Causeway Bay

Watch the video to have a glimpse of our 6- bedroom female dormitory.

If you are coming from the airport, ride bus A11 and go down at stop. 14. Walk towards Paterson street and just follow the street of 7 – 11.

You’d see Paterson building after few walks.

Take note though that there’s another Paterson building and that’s NOT the one you are looking for (I’m not sure how many it is).

Just walk few more and you’d see AESOP shop. The Paterson building right after AESOP is THE ONE! Cost of the bus ride is HKD 40. And yes, it was pretty easy.

 

 

Choosing off – the – beaten  path 

It was my 3rd time in Hong Kong so I decided to ditch the more popular places. I wanted to try their beach but ended up hiking at the Dragon’s Back. Thanks KIM! 🙂

Is it recommended?

TOTALLY! But you need to bring lots of water and wear proper hiking attire. I wasn’t prepared so I almost had blisters. But at the end of the journey, the BIG WAVE BEACH was worth it. Bring food and beer and you are all set.

Meeting true – blue travellers 

Probably the best part of my trip is slouching in the hostel’s common area and engaging talks with people from different countries. It was a liberating and humbling experience. You get to know their stories of ‘survival’ – from saving money so they can tour the world, to doing odd jobs in Australia just to feed themselves.

Actually, meeting them wanted me to totally downgrade my lifestyle and invest something even more worth – while – TRAVEL!

I am working harder though, because I want to bring my kids on my next adventure. Oh universe, hear me out, will you?