The Young Mom Travels – Did my Overseas Trip Solve my Problem?

In some areas, I’m doing fine. I’m doing well with my writing job, hitting quotas almost every month. Plus, I’m engaging myself more in Real Estate. Hopefully I’d make a nice sale in the upcoming months. But in general, I still feel incomplete. And for that reason, I had to step back to keep things in perspective.

A month ago, sadness hit me bad. Hence, I was a bit silent and didn’t have the guts to write for my blog. After all, I want this to be filled with positive memories. But I did something which I never did before – booked an overseas flight out of impulse.

You know that feeling when you just keep on holding your chest just because it feels heavier by the minute? I used to be brave and tried to face challenges head on. However, it was different last time. I decided I needed to leave – so I left.

By the third week of April, I flew to Singapore. Prior my flight, I asked a good friend of mine, Philip Gejon, if he could adopt me. I couldn’t thank you enough friend. You made my stay amazing! I was already feeling better but decided to push through with the trip. It was new to me – you know, to travel on my own and not joining a group.

I didn’t want to tell you about my itinerary because most probably, you already know where to go to. But I will tell you my insights while I traveled on my own – with just my trusty monopod, which by the way I got for free from Philip’s friend. Thanks!!! 🙂

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It was my first time to take a low-cost carrier. 🙂 It was… a liberating experience.
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Made friends during the short flight. 🙂
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Met a good friend of mine, Philip.

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Train Ride

I am not a fan of public transportation in the Philippines. I know how to, but will always roll my eyes after reaching my destination. I’m sure I’m not the only one. So when Philip instructed me to take the train to get to a ‘Hop on – Hop Off’ bus, I had to write his instructions down! He trusted me so well, but deep inside I wanted to take the cab. Had it been less expensive, I would.  Luckily, I made it. It was darn easy and I enjoyed the view, even while standing up the entire trip.

And then I saw toddlers inside the train. I couldn’t help but imagine my kids’ faces if they were with me. My son – he would ask so many questions about the train which I had no answers. My daughter – her eyes would definitely widen because of amazement. It would be very convenient to bring them there and take the train.  After all, the scenario was far more different from our MRTs here.

Before I reached my first destination, I was already missing my kids. But I was there already, might as well enjoy the time alone, right? RIGHT.

Lunch at Clarke Quay

I decided to have lunch at Clarke Quay. I attempted to take ‘decent’ photos with the monopod which you can see from the below. I tried – really. 🙂  As I was having my lunch alone, I imagined my parents eating with me. I imagined us talking about our last international trip as a family. Well, that was more than a decade ago. I was still 11 or 12 then. After that, we went on trips – separately.

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On that bus ride and some long walks on Singapore’s clean streets, I thought about what happened to me these past few years.

What have I become?

Have I been better? Or have I changed into someone for the wrong reasons?

Let’s talk about 3 aspects, 1) me as a mom 2) me as a career person 3) me as a partner *gulp*

BA the Mommy  

In terms of becoming a mom, I think I have improved a lot. I mean, if you compared it to what I was few years ago, I can say that I have stepped a notch higher. I am still trying to be as hands-on as I could get, but of course, it will take time as I still have few more things to settle.  Some people, even my family would think that I still need to exert more effort, but I can only do so much in a span of 5 months. Good news is –  there’s no way but UP. I will be the best mom that I could be. Just give it time. 🙂 I’m quite positive about this.

BA the Career Woman  

Let’s talk about my career. I think I’m taking it real slow. I was pretty enjoying my writing job but I need to earn more. That means, I will have to focus and spend more time with Real Estate. By the way, I’m reactivating my old Real Estate Blog and its Facebook page. I hope you get to see that too and share it.

BA the ‘Partner’

Now, as for the matters of the heart, which by the way I am not an expert with as of the moment, I decided to just park it for now. I have to admit, I changed some things about myself in order to please other people. Note to self: never to do it again. Anyway, I don’t want to expect anything, I don’t want to wait. It will come, eventually. Besides, my love for the kids should be enough. Isn’t that right?

So you see, I have many ‘hats’ but there is no doubt that I should prioritize my ‘mommy’ hat above everything else.

Well, the time alone made me realize a lot of things.

  • You can’t run away from your life’s challenges. You will have to face it no matter what. So if you are planning to have a quick escape (just like what I did), use it to think of your plans to resolve your problems. The travel per se will never diminish your problems and eventually, you will have to go back and fight against that.
  • As much as it’s nice to travel on your own, I would choose to bring my kids along. It doesn’t matter if I get tired after too much running, but seeing them happy would definitely make the trip worthwhile.

Geez, and during my trip I forgot to bring my notebook. It’s hard for me to plan without jotting my ideas down. I wanted to buy one but just before I was able to see a local bookstore, I got a free notebook from an exhibit which I just spontaneously crashed. I then stayed near merlion and wrote my plans. The universe was asking me to plot my game plan, don’t you think?  I might share it in the future and let’s see which ones I should tick off already.

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Free notebook!

Let’s just put it this way – Did I solve my problem by leaving the country? A BIG NO! But I was able to think of my plans on how I am going to resolve each one of them. Some of it? I decided to just stop solving, because they are useless.

It was a nice trip, but next time, I’m bringing my kids!

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31 thoughts on “The Young Mom Travels – Did my Overseas Trip Solve my Problem?

  1. I can relate very much as I had recently traveled abroad. And on my trip, I could not help but also compare the transpo system we have here in Manila.

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  2. Oh, I hope you’re feeling better now. I may never go abroad alone because I miss my son even when I just go to the mall, but I could imagine spontaneously heading away somewhere to escape. In times of trouble, though, the most effective thing that clears my mind is prayer.

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  3. Hope you’re feeling better momma, but I am so happy for you because you have realized so many things 🙂

    PS: You’re so brave, di ko kaya mag travel alone. hehe!

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  4. I agree about what you have said about changing who you are for someone else. If you will have to change something, it should be for yourself…. for a better you. I’m glad you had fun on your trip. I wish I would be able to go to Singapore din.

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  5. I travel alone once in a while, mga tipong Makati to Manila lang (hahaha) but I’m missing my hubby and my kids! I don’t think I can do it. Aaaah! You’re so brave wow!

    Anyway, I hope you can eventually figure out what makes your heart heavy. Mejo mahirap nga yan, but prayer helps a lot! Whenever I’m feeling the same thing, the best option for me is to seek help from the Lord, then everything turns fine. 🙂

    Cheer up, beautiful! Praying for you. 🙂

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    • Awww. This is such a sweet message. 🙂 Well, parang di ko na din kaya mag travel alone. Namimiss ko ang kids. And you are right, sobrang prayer talaga ang makakahelp! 🙂

      Cheers!

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  6. I don’t have the guts to do what you did! thinking of booking a trip alone pa lang, I can hear my husband’s voice already. Lol! The trip is a good way to put things in perspective. I hope you’re doing well now 🙂

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    • Thanks. 🙂 Well, it took a lot of guts to book and travel alone. It was worth it. 🙂 Malay mo naman pumayag si hubby 🙂

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  7. What a good time to reflect. 🙂 Taking some time off alone can really do wonders to us because otherwise we’re so busy running around taking care of the whole family that we forget ourselves and lose track.

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  8. I also want to travel abroad . . . in Las Vegas for a ‘business trip’. It’s more of a meet and greet actually with other online design business owners but there are only a few spots. Most of the people coming are locals, a.k.a. Americans and I want to be part of this trip too. The difficult part is, I don’t have a US Visa.

    I also want to experience flying solo in a foreign country. Hoping that a change of scenery/environment and circle of friends can get me closer to my lifetime goals . . .

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    • Hi Rhoda,

      Wow! Las Vegas is something I want to tick off from my list. 🙂 Why don’t you apply for a US visa? I’m sure it’s going to be great…

      Book now! I think Cebu Pacific is on sale again. 🙂 Sometimes, let’s just be carefree…

      P.S I really love your website.

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  9. I never tried going anywhere on my own – well except to the mall or the office, that is. I’m not sure if I would still like to try it out though since I find it a lot of fun to be with my partner and daughter during adventures. I sure do hope you found exactly what you were looking for by now! 🙂

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