Monthly Archives: March 2015

Young Mom’s Tips – Bringing your Toddlers to Cinema

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Well, I have decided to bring my kids to the nearest mall and I wanted to try something new for them.

I took them to the movie house to watch Cinderella.

I decided to take them to a movie.

I decided to take them to a movie.

I was actually hesitant at first. I am sure you are aware that Cinderella 2015 isn’t a cartoon. I felt that it would just bore them to death. My son is 4 years old, while my daughter is 2.

What the heck. I just did it.

3 tickets, 2 small bags of popcorn and 2 small sodas

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I thought that was all I needed.

The movie trailers made them laugh. The Frozen Fever (which was a small stint before the movie) made my daughter’s eyes popped! And then, the real deal.

Ok, Cinderella rolling now.

I WAS RIGHT!

After seeing few scenes from the movie, I was already giving both my kids that ‘PLEASE-SIT-DOWN-OR-ELSE’ look. My daughter started going up and down the cinema’s stairs, and my son started to complain and made excuses just to leave.

We ended the show of course, but I brought home some valuable lessons which I’m going to share with you.

Thinking of bringing your toddlers to the movies? Here are some tips from my fresh experience. 🙂

Tip 1. Stick with cartoons or a movie with a lot, and I mean A LOT of visual effects.

Who doesn’t love magic, fairy dust, giants, candies and colorful visual effects? Kids do not actually interpret the whole plot of a movie, most of them are just amazed by the visual effects. I have proven this when Cinderella’s godmother turned the pumpkin into a carriage. That was one of the few times my daughter stayed in her seat.

Tip 2. Choose seats which are near the aisle.

You wouldn’t want to annoy other movie-goers just because you need to stand up every so often because your kids are running around, or wanted to ‘visit’ the restroom.

Tip 3. Prepare some milk.

Pacify them by giving them milk. I was so grateful I had brought two. 🙂 The downside, your kids might doze off.

Tip 4.Buy additional chips.

If they don’t want milk, then popcorn or a bag of chips might be a substitute for now.

Tip 5. Go to the restroom prior movie.

Not just for the kids, right? *wink*  If your toddlers are still on diapers, change it first before going inside the movie house.

Tip 8. Prolong your patience.

Otherwise, just wait for few more years to watch another movie, or stick with DVDs for now. 🙂

All in all, the experience wasn’t that bad. It was one of their milestones to watch a movie inside a dark cinema. Perhaps, I’ll just choose a better movie for my toddlers next time. Spongebob maybe? What do you think?

BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to ba_isla@yahoo.com  

Start a Part Time Job – Real Estate – Driven Marketing Group Inc.

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As a kid, apart from being exposed to muscle cars, I was exposed to construction of houses and commercial buildings. After all, that’s our family’s ‘bread and butter’. I would remember my father bringing the whole family to his project sites and I would imagine myself owning the properties, designing the interior inside my head. I can also recall getting condo/ house and lot brochures from stalls.

Little did I know, it was a sign that I’m going to be working in the real estate industry. If you want to read how I got into this world, read my post here.

For most people, you might think that being in a real estate world only meant selling properties and getting commissions from it. However, there is more than that. It’s a wide industry and each of its leg is very interesting. Not only that you can get decent earnings, you can have that fulfillment of being a bridge for those people who are trying to find a HOME. These are just few things I can share with you right now. For the nitty – gritties, I suggest you attend the event by Driven Marketing Group Inc.  on April 16, 2015 at SM Megamall, Megatrade Hall (Conference Rooms A&B).

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Learn more about Real Estate from the experts in the field. Get inspired by their success stories!

  • It doesn’t matter if you have a day job.

Who says you need this full time? Remember, I’m a mother, working at home (don’t make excuses)  

  • It doesn’t matter if you can’t go out of your homes for client trippings.

Driven Marketing Group Inc. has strategized an assisting program where you can relax at the comfort of your own homes while earning from a closed sale.

  • It doesn’t matter if you know nothing about the industry.

With their regular and carefully plotted training, you’d be able to learn the ins and outs of the industry.

I have been with Driven Marketing Group Inc. for about 4 years already. I started without anything to back me up – except my determination to learn and to make it big. Now that I’m a Real Estate broker, I’m sure I will still learn a lot of things from this group. They do not only base their teachings by the books, they have created their own strategies based on experience.

I have seen them grow over the years and I am looking forward seeing them grow even further.

Join the team and see you there.

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BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to ba_isla@yahoo.com  

Making the Best Decisions in Life – Is There Such?

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Since I work online, going out of our house is a treat for me. It doesn’t matter if I go to the nearest mall, or if I visit my friends nearby.

This weekend I visited a young mom who happens to be my cousin too. It was great because 1) I saw her cute kids 2) I was able to think of a topic for my post. Hi Lara! Congrats. 🙂 

We started talking about our decisions to work from home and/or to work overseas. Unfortunately, here in the Philippines, more people will need to work abroad should they need to earn more.

Obviously, I am working from home. My cousin used to work overseas but decided to stay here for a while because she had to give birth. We have opposing ideas in some areas, but came up with a solid conclusion. What have I learned from our conversation?

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Regardless if you work from home or if you work overseas, you will sacrifice some things. In my case, I will have to work harder to earn more money. That means, I need to look for other source of income if I want to give my kids the life I wish for them to have. My weekends aren’t my ‘rest’ days as I need to dedicate some time for my ‘rakets’.

Now, working overseas doesn’t mean money will come easy. But I’m sure you would agree with me if I say that in most cases,  you can earn more if you work outside this archipelago. The hardest part of it though is that you’d spend number of nights crying yourself to sleep and missing important milestones of your kids.

Which one is better?

Well, it depends actually. We have different perspectives in life. I chose to work here because I want to make sure that I see my kids during their formative years. Some would leave while their kids are still young so they could save enough in the future. That means, they could go back just in time when their kids enter puberty stage.

We may have different opinions but one thing should be kept in mind. In all your decisions, you must consider your kids. And you have to ensure that you will squeeze out all your resources in order to compensate what you might lose.

Let’s just take the work from home/ work in Philippines vs. work overseas ok?

If you are leaving: Is it because you want to give your kids a good life and at the same time, save for the future faster?  What’s good about today’s technology is that you can always talk to your kids without spending so much. We have Skype, Viber, Facetime and all those apps. There should be no excuse not to communicate with them. Yes, there might be time difference, but what’s an hour or two to talk to your kids? Ask them about their school, or how their day went by. Give them words of wisdom and encourage them to be open about their lives.

But what I notice about some parents who work abroad is that they shower their kids with expensive things. It’s ok if you do this once in a while, but if you do it on a regular basis, chances are your kids will have this sense of entitlement. It’s not going to help them as they grow older. I hope you get that. Give them what they deserve. You might feel that the expensive things will compensate the time you are not with them, but you are wrong. Being a good provider isn’t equal to being a good parent. It’s a part of being one, but shouldn’t be interchanged.

If you are staying: Is it because you feel that you can survive with what you earn and that you can think of ways to have more savings? Are you ready to engage yourself in different businesses or ‘sidelines’? Apparently, this is the choice that I made. I am confident that I can make it big here. I do not earn much from being an online writer but I try to engage myself into other businesses (I’m in Real Estate, remember? So if you need my services, you are welcome. Haha! Promotion at its best! As they say, “Para- paraan lang yan”).

But of course, if I really need to leave for reasons we don’t know yet, I would. For now, I think I have made my best bet.

So what am I trying to say?

In life, we always have to make a choice. To be honest, there is no best choice. You know, the ‘one-size-fits-all’ thing? That’s not true. Haven’t you noticed that? There will always be a missing piece. In the case above, it can be the time for your kids, missing milestones or working double to ensure that their future is safe. But make sure that if you have already chosen one, you are prepared to sacrifice and to compensate. That’s how it should be.

If you are having doubts in making decisions in general, talk to other people whom you think can give you valuable inputs. In my case, I try to talk to other moms (the seasoned ones and the new ones). If you are having doubts in putting up your business, talk to those who have already established theirs. Share your thoughts and the decision you are about to make. Yes, there will be people who will be saying NO. Don’t feel bad about it. I mean, I am sure they have reasons why they challenged your ideas. Consider their thoughts, maybe they have a point. However, at the end of the day, it is your final word that will matter. Make sure you will weigh everything first. ‘Bahala na’ attitude can be fun and that ‘uncertainty’ gives us the thrill, but if you are doing something that will affect your kids, I’d rather avoid that mentality. ***

So, my son will have his final exams tomorrow. I guess I need to review him first.

BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to ba_isla@yahoo.com   

My Brother was an A@%hole – Inspiring Story of my Literally ‘Big’ Brother

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I know this blog is about young moms, but this time I want to write something about a person who inspires me… And HE is not a mom (obviously).

My older, and only brother. AK. 🙂

So how should I start this?

Maybe I’d give you some trivia on how my brother and I roll.

Fact 1. We love debates. We seriously love to debate. And then we’d usually end up fighting!

Fact 2. We love horror movies and crime and investigation channel. We are both fascinated by infamous murderers!

Fact 3. We love speed. He’s a great driver though. I, on the other hand, tried to mimic his moves years ago, and I ended up with a ‘fugly’ neck brace. Thank you very much.

Fact 4. We are both public speakers.

Fact 5. We are pain in the arse! We are just lucky we have the best parents. Otherwise, we would end up in the bin.

Fact 6. Many thought we were a ‘couple’. Brother, I have high standards. *wink*

Fact 7. He loves to go out while I drown myself in books. Nevertheless, he’s a wide reader too.

Fact 8. We consult each other for fashion tips. He actually picked my graduation ball dress way waaaay back.

Fact 9. For years, he treated me as his older sister!!! I looked after him and begged him to get his act straight.

Fact 10. We are the backup of each other. If he’s down, I’ll be there. When I am down, I don’t have to worry. I’m certain that he is going to be there for me. He was actually the first person from our family to know that I was pregnant (both pregnancies). See posts from here and here.

Now, why do I brag my brother so much? Here’s why.

  • He was an a@#hole who didn’t attend his subjects during college. He failed most of it actually (due to excessive absences).
  • He stopped going to school.
  • He spent my parents’ money for ‘God-knows-what’. I am telling you, it’s a hefty amount!
  • He made my college life miserable! Or so I thought.
  • He fooled our parents by giving fake grades and seriously thought he could get away from it. (That was stupid Kuya. Really!)
  • He was so impulsive, he got married after months of dating his best-friend.  

For quite some time I thought he was hopeless… And I thought he was making the worst decisions again. But I was wrong.

He was more than a sports-car driving guy.

He was more than a flunking student.

He was more than a rebel child.

He was more than an unemployed late 20-ish guy.

He was more than that…

I was relieved when he stopped going to school. That meant, he wouldn’t spend so much since he will live with us. But he was not getting any younger. He was on his late 20s and still unemployed. I was bothered by that. Nevertheless, we all knew he could land a job, and so he did.

He was doing pretty well. In fact, he was commended by his colleagues and superiors. But his not-so-huge salary became an issue. I didn’t want him to resign because I felt that his job would teach him valuable lessons in life. But he did. My hard-headed brother jumped off the cliff one more time. That freakin’ a@#hole! I told myself.

I decided to just let go of him. I let him do his own thing. After all, he was already married to his best-friend. Yes, that was another thing that bothered me. My brother, the impulsive one! He got married without a job, without savings, without a plan. That was nice (eyes rolling). I was in for another roller coaster ride.

I thought this was a bad decision. But getting married to my now sister-in-law was one of the best things he did. He became more responsible, more focused and more disciplined. I don’t know, maybe it’s about his wife’s cooking and baking skills, or his wife’s undying support from day 1. I don’t know. (note: Better bake me some goodies Pam. I’m serious)

True enough, his marriage started his good fortune. Yes, his first ‘real’ job didn’t end well, but months after that, the good luck came like a bullet train.

My father met a client who was able to open up a huge gate for my brother’s career. If you say coincidence, we say otherwise.  He’s now working for a good company overseas which allows him to go home every month. The pay is good, the benefits are even better. And by the looks of it, my brother gives his 100% at work.

I don’t want to tell the nitty gritties of this story just yet. Or else, I won’t be able to finish this on time.

Just a quick back story, my sister- in-law was pregnant and during that period, my brother was jobless. But just barely a month before her due date, my brother got the job, quickly left the country and the company was able to secure the medical benefits of his family. To top that, only the best hospitals in the Philippines are accredited by their medical insurance. He paid almost PHP 0!

He’s not living an extravagant life as of now. But he’s living a happy life, which (I think you would agree) is far better.  

Now, what did I notice from my brother? These observations made me learn a lot of things.

He knows himself.

Even if most of us pushed him to fix his life (by saying how to do it), he was still in control. Obviously, he didn’t do most of our advice, but he didn’t slap it on our faces either. He knows what he wants with his life. I, on the other hand, tried to please people around me, even when that meant doing things without my heart in it. He taught me to know exactly what I want and to be firm. After all, we’re not kids anymore. We are old enough to make decisions on our own.

He knows how to prioritize.

He can easily buy a larger house and brand new cars, but opted not to. He lives a simple life and apparently, a happy one. That aura is clearly reflected within their humble home (a small 2-bedroom house with overflowing groceries).

He can buy expensive clothes, but chooses to visit Divisoria when their time permits.

You get the picture?

Great!

That’s also one of the reasons I went back to my kids. I have chosen my priority. I’d rather wear my worn-out jeans and flats running after my kids, than wear brand new stilettos.

But of course, I don’t question his obsession with car-parts! 🙂 

He is a believer.

I have written a post about believing, check the link here. Now I am actually telling another story of a person who believed that he can make it.

I thought he was just some lazy arse, easy-go-lucky kind of guy. But my brother is a certified optimist and it was very rare that I saw him worried about anything. He taught me to take things lightly even when it seems too much to handle.

I used to be a worry-wart. But now, I think I’m a bit more relaxed and chill, which makes my entire life happier. He taught me to believe in my abilities. He taught me to believe in good things.

He is a risk –taker.

And since he believes that he can do almost anything (borderline mayabang, 🙂 ), he takes a lot of risk. No, I’m not talking about car- racing as his hobby. I’m talking about taking risks in general.

Did you know that they decided to purchase a house even if they didn’t have savings? But maybe, that became his motivation to look for a more stable job. Plus, I think he already calculated the risk before jumping into it. I wouldn’t know. But he sure did a great job!

He is not afraid to leave his comfort zone. That’s why he was able to invest a lot on his experience. He was brave enough to conquer his fears (except frogs, maybe). He has that ‘what’s-the-worst-that-could-happen’ attitude which I truly admire.

He pays it forward.

Even if he’s already earning good, he doesn’t brag about it. Instead, he lives an epitome of someone who believes that he can make it big, regardless of what life has brought him in the past. You can feel his genuine urge to help other people. Until now, you will see him as someone in hole-dominating shirts, auto-mechanic wannabe that eats street foods whenever he wanted to. He tries to help us in ways he could. Not just by giving us money, but by giving words of wisdom, which I am sure came from his actual experiences.

My brother is celebrating his birthday today! So yes, this is really my gift because I am still on my way to being rich! 

It was just few years ago when his life was chaotic as hell and I couldn’t be more proud of his achievements. I have seen him transformed from a boy, to a man, to a ‘not ideal’ brother and boyfriend, to an ideal father. For sure, this tall, dark and somehow handsome brother of mine will reach greater milestones. And while he’s doing that, I’d humbly stay on one side, waiting for my next allowance from him. 🙂

Love you Kuya! See you later..

Photo taken more than 20 years ago!

BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to ba_isla@yahoo.com