The Traffic is Bad – Now What? – How to Kick the Problem’s Butt

I had no idea what to write for this week’s post. Geez.


Deep breath.


I am writing this while I’m inside the cab. So, thank you Manila traffic. 🙂 


And just like that, an idea for my next post came in.


Here, I’ll ask you a question. Ok?

When challenges come your way, what do you do? How do you feel about being thrown with problems that you honestly believe you don’t deserve?

You ask me the same thing few years ago and I’ll tell you this.

I’d punch my wall, kick my bed and break whatever is right in front of me.

Yes, I was very hot headed. If things don’t go my way, I’d curse the entire universe right away. I thought that by doing so, I can somehow lessen the pain. That can be true. But the fact remains, my problem is still there. UNRESOLVED.


Wait, I need to get down from the cab. I’m at Century Mall now, which by the way is a great place to relax. It’s not congested… yet. I’ll write again in a while.

I went to ‘Fully Booked’ to satisfy my cravings for ideas and playful words but thought I needed to save money so I’d skip book shopping, for now. Or maybe I’d go to BOOKSALE next week. Let’s see. 🙂 

Ooh, perfect spot to sit. While waiting for someone, I’ll write first.

Where was I? Ah, yeah. That HULK in me years ago. Let’s continue.


I remember one time, my dad told us a story from his childhood.

When he was swimming, his foot was accidentally caught in a rope. To make matters worse, he was under water. I don’t know why there was a rope. Perhaps, he was swimming beside a boat or something.Point is, that wasn’t the best thing to happen if you are under water.

Well, he could have drowned.

Obviously, he survived. The question is, how did he do it?

Here’s the trick…

He was CALM.

He didn’t panic. Instead, he held his breath and went down deeper to free himself from the rope. Can you imagine if he panicked? Chances are, the rope would twist in random direction. If lucky, then perhaps the rope will loosen on its own. But I tell you, the possibility of making the condition worse was 10x more. If my dad panicked, he might have ended his life then and there. If he panicked, I wouldn’t be able to write this lesson in life. 🙂

Now, what am I trying to tell you? I’ll give you 2 quick key takeaways.

1) When it seems that you are being bombarded with challenges, keep calm. It is only when you are calm that you can think efficiently. It is only when you are clam that you can create the best counter –attack plot.

Then act on it.

If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. In my father’s story above, had there been someone beside my dad, then maybe he could have helped him. Things could have been simpler. Right?

Look, it is impossible to not have someone to talk to. God is everywhere. Say a little prayer and ask for courage and guidance.

Plus, you can easily send messages to your friends, right?  You can join clubs or if you can’t leave home then join online communities. Read self-help book. But don’t let your anger eat you. It will just prolong your agony. And that would just add wrinkles on your face. Nooooo!!!!

Never panic because your problems will only make you stronger. Yes, I know it’s cliche but I thought you needed a reminder. Just think that you are in some sort of maze. It’s exciting actually! Say this, “Keep the challenges coming, I am not backing down you @#$%^&&** (just kidding).

2) Lastly, Traffic isn’t bad after all (unless you seriously need to go to the bathroom). Instead, you can use the time to do productive things. Why not plan your next travel? Or think about your future business? In my case, I used ‘traffic’ as my inspiration for this post. You see people, this isn’t just about traffic, but I am speaking about life in general. If you can’t change the things that are happening around you, then change your attitude towards that. I promise, your life will be so much better.

Yes, so there. I think I’ve said my piece for the week. I still need to teach my son for his upcoming exams. Good night.

P.S.  I hope you had a great Valentine ’s Day. I did. 🙂

BA is a young mom of 2 wonderful kids. She has high ambitions and would like to touch hearts. If you wish to write her a message, please send it to   


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